***Warning: this is going to be a ramble. I have not organized my thoughts on this one AT ALL. These kinds of posts always seem to get me into trouble, but it's my blog, so deal.
I come from a VERY large extended family on both sides. My mom's side is significantly larger than my dad's, but both are pretty big. My dad comes from a family of 5 (his middle brother, my uncle, is deceased), and my mom comes from a family of 8. What makes both families unique, is that, aside from the occasional college student, we all live in the area. Isn't that weird/cool/sad/good all at the same time?
Needless to say, it has caused mass chaos at holiday time throughout the years. Gotta go here, gotta be there kind of stuff. Fast forward to 2009. It's hard. Really hard.
Here's the deal...
I really enjoy being with my family. ALL of them. But things in my own world are changing. I'm not the 18-year-old girl dragging her boyfriend (yes, he became my husband) around to only 2 events. I'm a wife & mother to 4 children. Christmas is about a lot of things, but namely, it's about sharing the magic of the birth of the King with children, and everything else that goes along with that. And, now that I have my own kids, that one sentence has a whole new meaning for me.
Let me say again, I love my extended family. We all get along, and laugh, and joke, and play games, and, generally, enjoy each other when we are all together. But, when is enough, enough?
That sounded harsh. And, I really, really don't mean it to.
What I'm trying to say, and failing at miserably, is that as time goes on, can things always remain the same. Can we all cram into someone's house, shoulder to shoulder, with new girlfriends, husbands, babies, etc., and still get the same thing out of it that we did 15 years ago?
On my mom' side we have resorted to renting a hall, or splitting up into our smaller groups to do holidays, birthdays, and the like. I feel like, at this point, we just get together for the sake of getting together. A HAVE to, not a WANT to. And, I really do still want to see them, and spend time with them around the holidays, but it's getting to be so much. Church, Chirstmas Eve festivities, then Christmas morning with just us, then Jake's side, then my side. Ugh!
I want to claim one of the two days as our own. No distractions. Just us. Any which way I look at it, it's the Christmas Eve gathering that needs to get axed. It makes me sad, but at the same time, I'm not sure that I still get the same charge out of that party that I used to. I still enjoy it, but it's not the same.
That's sounds awful. And, sometimes change is hard to stomach, but it's necessary. Unavoidable.
I hope I didn't make any of my familial readers sad or mad. Sometimes, I think that I say out loud what many of you are thinking. There are pros and cons to zipping it shut AND being more upfront. Is there a right or a wrong? I'm not sure. Confronting it head on has always worked better for me.
Does anyone else feel the same? Please tell me I'm not alone...
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